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Dance Travel Connect Love Alaska

Monday, July 5th, 2010

Anchorage, Alaska

Alaska moonlight

Alaska moonlight

When I arrived in early April, the snow on the ground had started to melt and yet within days of my arrival there was a new dusting of snow.   As my time evolved, so did the  scenery transform from white into brown and gray.   Not so beautiful but raw and barren.   As spring emerged  in mid May,  green buds appeared on the trees and grass shot up literally overnight.  Once again, I was reminded of the contrasts in this huge, unruly place.

I am not allowed to talk about the  military work according to my contract, but what I can say is that I continue to have the highest regard for our men and women in uniform who are dedicated and committed to serving our country.    It always feels like an honor to give a little to them as they give so much for us.  Now, as a family member myself, I know what it is like to sacrifice and I know what it is like to live between fear and pride.

TRAVEL.     My weekends were filled up mostly with travel to beautiful places.     My life in Anchorage 30 years ago was but a distant memory, set in a time when I was younger and wilder.   I was shocked to realize that my brain could only remember street names and a few businesses here and there.   The rest was like amnesia.   What I discovered is that Alaska is still wild, just like a part of me.

glacier-large I decided to see as many glaciers as I could …26 in one day…that’s what the tour advertised and they did deliver on their promises.    There was stunning scenery after stunning scenery and I tried to focus on the fact that so few people actually get to see what I was seeing.  Lucky, lucky me.

Seward.  Amazing little fishing town.  Quaint comes to mind.   I took the whale watching cruise and a delightful day watching seals, otters, bald eagles, puffins (they are so cute) and a Mom humpback and her baby splash and blow in the distance.

Seward is a gorgeous fishing village

Seward is a gorgeous fishing village

Denali, highest peak in N. America

Denali, highest peak in N. America

Then there was Denali, otherwise known as Mt. McKinley.  Our highest mountain in North America… 20,320 feet high.  In her majestic ways, she alluded us most of the time, creating her own microclimate, mostly hidden behind swirling clouds and snow.

Denali National Park and Preserve...such a unique place,  a sanctuary where animals live truly in their natural habitat and us humans get to have a peak at them from a bus tour where we had to keep everything inside the bus except our cameras.  No hands or arms outside the windows.   And quiet so as to be guests in this sacred, vast territory.    No cars allowed.      There were  caribou, moose standing on the side of the road, dall sheep, a red fox, a nest of falcons, a lynx, bald eagels …And the biggest gift of all…. Ms.  Mama grizzly bear and 2 cubs walked straight up to the bus and laid down.   Thrilling and shocking.  I was grateful to be on the bus and not hiking.

MaMa grizzley and Cub

MaMa grizzly and Cub

DANCE. I decided to take up belly dancing and became shocked to find out how many things have to  happen simultaneously in your brain and body at once….hips moving, arms in another direction, and those tiny cymbals called zils on my fingers clacking to the beat of drums.  My teacher was sophisticated, passionate and she had two tattooed eyes that were watchful as we danced behind her.  carries-eyes-largeCarrie.

BellyDancers

BellyDancers

I bravely enrolled in an Indian Temple dance class and was mesmerized by this beautiful woman who has spent her lifetime learning the art of Indian temple dance.

And then I tried Bikram yoga.  This, of course, is the hot 102 degrees insane type of yoga.    In one particularly challenging class when  my lungs pleaded &  screamed for a meager bit of cool air, I heard myself say ” if my son  endured Afghanistan in 130 degree heat with full 125 pound armor on, then I can suck it up and finish a silly 90 minute class of heat.”    I calmed down after that and am happy to say that I made it through several classes without throwing up or running out of the room.   Anchorage Yoga.

CONNECT.        The friendliness of the Alaska people is equal to their big hearts.  Once, after my yoga class,  I was blow-drying my hair (trying to recover)  and a very compassionate woman from the class invited me to her home for dinner after realizing I was living in a hotel for 2 months.   I met her charming husband, her delightful kids and neighbors and felt so included and grateful for family connection again.   She knew me for 5 minutes only and invited me to share her family, her home, and her friends.     What an amazing surprise that people can still be so trusting of a complete stranger.

LOVE. I love the beauty of Alaska.  It is wild here, it is big, and it is a place of deep contrasts.  It’s not like any other place I’ve been.

Love....I missed my husband and I missed my family while I was away.  And so my love for them grew even bigger and I became extraordinarily grateful for these people in my life.    There really is no place like home.

I am off again to Alaska in a week.   For a month.  And then to Japan for 2 months.  And in between the hot summer nights, I will find myself on a beach in Mexico, dancing and celebrating my son’s wedding.     How lucky can you get?

Dance Travel Connect Love.   Not a bad life.

Mama Grizzley

Mama Grizzly

A Valentine’s Day Couple’s Retreat

Saturday, February 20th, 2010
A couple under blue skies

A couple under blue skies

The sweetness of the retreat lingers as I drink my morning coffee and surround myself with unopened emails and a newsletter to write.   I remember this time a week ago, my thoughts were in savoring  the sun against the patches of snow and deep blue skies as we hiked to the top of a mountain in Colorado.  The couples retreat was full on.

At the Mountain Park Environmental CenterHelene and Dave Van Manen led us up the mountain on a two hour hike all the way up to the lookout point.   He is known to many as Ranger Dave and she as Coach Helene.  They work daily to educate children and anyone who listens about the conservation of this beautiful land.      couples-on-retreat-large2

It’s a stunning place for a retreat, the HorseShoe Lodge, where rooms are  comfortable and delightfully decorated.  We stayed in the Canyon Echoes Room which was warm and welcoming.   My second time here and I felt very much at home, surrounded by stillness and comfort.

We five couples (six including Helene & Dave, our leaders) met the night before.   I knew we were lucky to be on this retreat with Helene and Dave, a couple who are brimming with fun, love and commitment to each other.    They offered the weekend to couples as a time to rest and renew and be with each other in this special environment.  Three other retreat coaches also came on retreat:  Diane Mueller, Elizabeth Barbour, & Angelika Ekert-Scott.

Couples yoga in the afternoon.  We did tree poses together symbolizing how we balance each other.  I realized while in the middle of the pose, that I couldn’t balance on my own but that I needed to be mindful of my husband’s movements and then how he and I had to work together to stand tall in the tree pose.     The blend when we got it right was reassuring, a strengthening metaphor of how  a couple must adjust,  giving and taking.   I felt the true awareness of being in the moment and focusing on myself as well as my partner’s needs.

Couples Tree Pose

Couples Tree Pose

Food.  So delicious.  Bernie, the chef, at the Horseshoe Lodge was magnificent.  Yummy, healthy salads, warm nurturing soups, and an eggplant entree to die for,  Mary’s (his wife’s) oatmeal cookies.  Such a treat.  I felt pampered and nourished at each meal.

Saturday night. The ending of a spectacular day.  I felt myself relax and lean into my husband’s arms as we all sat on the floor and listened to Helene and Dave sing.   The blend of their voices together and Dave’s guitar was like a soothing elixir to our bodies and hearts.  All couples sat on the floor wrapped around each other, listening, sometimes singing along.   The music restored us further into ourselves and our relationships.  The music of Dave & Helene.

We realized that snow was gently falling outside as we snuggled in more towards each other.

A sweet Sunday morning.    The snow seemed to glisten  in the sunlight between the pine trees surrounding the Lodge.  Breakfast of yummy oatmeal, raisins, nuts, & bananas  and then we were out on another hike up through the canyon.   It was easy to be walking sometimes in silence, other times connecting with others.   Some couples stayed back.

Couples in the Canyon

Couples in the Canyon

Sunday afternoon:  I indulged myself in a massage by Carol and landed in never, never land somewhere in my head while completely relaxed.  Others were napping or journaling or reading.

Goodbyes were said, some of us lingering, staying an extra day.

And then, we were off the next morning on a three hour drive to Joyful Journey Hot Springs Spa,  through the Sangre de Cristo Mountains.  The wide open ranges with mighty mountains in the background covered with white pristine snow lay before us.  The pastures were also covered with snow and the occasional cow  fronted these ranges.  The beauty was stunning.

The Sangre de Cristo Mountain range

The Sangre de Cristo Mountain range

After driving through stunning scenery,  we were at long last at the hot springs and soaking in a choice of several hot tubs fed by hot springs.  Relaxing once again.  The spirit of the mountains called to me.  As I looked out our window from our room,  I noticed there were small sand dunes covered in snow!  Very beautiful.

Coach Diane

Coach Diane Mueller

Blue Skies & Snow

Blue Skies & Snow

Driving back to Denver, I thought what restorative and magic powers await us when we take the time to give to ourselves.  It doesn’t have to be a grand adventure like my husband and I experienced, just easier  when you walk away from your house and all the to do lists and the busyness gets put on hold…..it’s just easier.

And now back at home, and seeing the young,bright yellow daffodils blooming in my yard, I drift back to that peaceful,  unique  feeling of balance.   I am rested now and ready to begin again.  I am very grateful for this special experience of being on retreat with my husband in such a beautiful land.

What I’m thinking is that it’s not where you go or how far you go, it’s important to take the time to just be.  And a retreat helps to us to get away from all the endless lists and overwhelm that is so easy to fall into.  I will remember the snow and the blue skies of Colorado and I am grateful to have had this unbelievable opportunity.

Altitude Freakiness

Friday, February 19th, 2010

There’s nothing like a retreat to return home refreshed and renewed. This past week, my hubby and I flew to the snowy mountains of Colorado for a couples’ retreat with my retreat coach mentor, CoachHelene and her husband, Dave Van Manen.

Oh yeah and if you haven’t been in a cold climate before, Pike’s Peak in February is definitely the place to be.  OI!  We were lucky that the road was open all the way to the top and so we drove the narrow road that had steep drop offs into nowhere with snow blowing everywhere. It felt a bit surreal to drive all the way to the top and since I’m traveling with a professional photographer, I volunteered to drive up the mountain.  I didn’t go over 25 mph and I just kept my eyes straight ahead.

A couple at the top

Okay, the photo here shows us at the summit and looking somewhat normal.   It was 3 degrees below zero…so when you look at the picture of me smiling, just know it was blizzard like conditions.  I’m not sure how I got the muscles in my face to smile.    It felt so on the edge of abnormal.

We tried to thaw out inside the gift shop/restaurant a few feet away.  And this is when the whirly birds started.  14,000 feet can do strange things to your body.  At first I thought it was my imagination, the pressure in my chest, combined with the feeling that my head was very enlarged and fluffy;  I kept checking myself to see if I was even thinking straight. I’ve never experienced anything like it.    I looked over at Thom and he seemed to be doing okay but I knew instinctively that he was suffering.   I saw a woman devouring a chocolate covered donut and I just knew right then that I had to get out of there.

We both agreed in a stupor that we needed to get back down the mountain as soon as possible.  And so we did.   At 10,000 feet I decided that I was hopelessly sleepy and exhausted.   I looked over at Thom…he didn’t look too good but like all crazy photographers, you know, they still want to stop and take pictures.  Afterwards we discovered all his pictures had this strange  out of focus quality to them with the wrong exposure.   Hmmmm.

I was thinking that when we get overwhelmed and overscheduled that life does become just like the high altitudes.  Weird, out of balance, freaky, a little bit edgy.   And the best we can do is get down the mountain and back to ourselves and spend time nurturing ourselves.  Unless of course we choose to stay on the edge.

The skinny road to the top of Pikes Peak

The skinny road to the top of Pikes Peak

Stay tuned for the next part of the retreat…..

Working with the Saboteurs

Sunday, November 29th, 2009

The saboteurs are talking to me today.  Those little critical nagging voices inside my head, stepping up each time I think of a topic to write about.  “You know no one wants to read about that” or “don’t expose too much of yourself” or “you’re not saying it in the right way.”   I hate them.  I tell them to buzz off and they just come back.  I appease them by telling them to take a break and go to Starbucks and leave me alone.

So let’s see what can happen without them around.

It’s that time again when I will be packing my suitcases and going back home.  Leaving a fascinating city and leaving my beloved.  Remembering the moments of discovering different places.   Favorite memories of the Library of Congress, the National Cathedral, the hike on Thanksgiving Day to Great Falls, Maryland, and eating Portuguese wraps with brutal hot sauce with Rob, sitting in the Botanical Gardens designing retreats.   So pungent and succulent the memories.

Okay, so the saboteurs return, fiercely correcting my choice of words.  I don’t care if they’re around, I’m going to write anyway.

Jo at the Capitol

Jo at the Capitol

Sadness and sweetness together.   Gratitude and regret.  Things I missed, things I took full advantage of.  Tasting the sweet pleasure of not having to do anything but just enjoy the surroundings.

Feeling pressure to do more retreats, figure out the structure of my business, chiding myself for not blogging more.   Does anyone reading this do this to themselves?   Those saboteurs….you gotta love em, they keep us safe.  When out of control, they take over.  Where is the balance?   Today I will tell them they can work for awhile and then they need to take a break.